The Very Thought of You

The Internet age has made cybersex a reality, more so an everyday commonality. You can log on and find anything you want on any multitude of adult web sites. Dating and social online communities are now overshadowed by the ever popular ‘hook-up’ sites. Straight sex that’s what people want, cam to cam, with a complete stranger after only a quick glimpse at a user’s profile. These adult content sites are free and you can upload any images (photo or video) of yourself in almost any kind of intimate and compromising position. Men and women alike log on for a quick fix, a hot-n-heavy dose of the latest amateur homemade porn, and yet who’s to say that the vid’s or pic’s are actually of said user. Does it really matter these days as long as it’s hot and you can jerk-off to it?

So let’s say you फंड someone online, we all know physical attraction is the number one reason we click on a users profile in the first place. So what’s in an online adult profile these days? Let’s see, I think it goes something like this: 42, 6”2’, 195, 32 waist, 40 biceps, 8 x 6 negative, DDF, top versatile for the right guy, laidback, looking for friends, fuck-buds or LTR. So is this what dating has come to? It’s turned into an instant gratification wank-job to the profile of some guy who has pictures of himself spreading his cheeks so his asshole can wink at the camera lens.

Now, don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t want you to think I was a total cynic or some sort of prude। I enjoy a good hand-job just like every other guy. I’ve bantered with a couple guys online that I would do, some quite physically ‘hot’ and others that really know how to ‘type’ to a man. I’m turning forty soon and I’ve been around the proverbial block in my day and now, now I want something more. Something wilder (intense) with a bit more kick to it, a bit more stimulus, something flavorful, with wit, personality and intelligence. Confidence is attractive, cockiness is not. I’m not asking anyone to be something for me, I’m just saying be a little creative and show me that the big head can work in conjunction with the small head. So let’s get down to it.

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   Friends, if that is what you are looking for then people ‘should’ respect that and actually talk to you on that level, not IM, ‘Woof or Grrr’ my response has always been, ‘thank you, so how are you doing’ the conversation usually dies shortly after that and a few more one liners। So now this also means that if you are truly looking for ‘friends only’ then you probably shouldn’t have pictures of yourself posted with you dick hanging out or of a buddy’s forearm elbow deep up inside of you for all cyberspace to see. That sends a mixed message or could imply that your definition of friends is taken from an unpublished version of a dictionary that no one else has access to but you.
2. Know what you want and don’t be afraid to be honest about it, you just may get it, however sometimes the answer could still be ‘no’। Casting too wide of a net could mean that you really don’t know what you want and nobody is interested in that.
3. Chemistry and attraction are part of everyday life so please be respectful and understand that just because you make advances toward someone, they are not obliged to return the sentiment. Don’t have any expectations with what you experience online. Cyberspace is a safe haven for people to explore their sexuality, facilitate their wilder side and fantasize about sex in a way they might not be able to do in their daily lives.
   
   I have saved the best for last, so what if you connect?